Be able to get ready in 10 minutes
December 9, 2010 7 CommentsLadies,
We have to hand it to you.
You know how to put it together. The right hair, the right makeup, the right outfit, shoes, accessories, you can make it all work.
The style you exude when you’re done up turns heads, stumbles steps, and jumbles words. Potent enough to stop any man in his tracks. And when you’re single, that may be the exact response you’re looking for. You want to be noticed, and sometimes it takes that extra effort to make that right impression.
However, for many girls, this ritual of primping and perfect presentation carries over from single life into their relationships. It becomes a habit, an addiction, and eventually a burden on relationship growth.
When you’re single, or early on in the exclusive dating phase, your man only experiences the show-portion of your look. The (often) hours of planning and execution that it took to achieve the look are out of sight and out of mind. He is free to simply appreciate you at your most refined. That part is easy.
However, once you’re deep into dating, and especially when living together, the equation changes a bit. Now your man discovers the secrets of your powers. He sees that it takes extra time to do your hair perfectly, that make-up doesn’t put itself on, and that the dress you wore wasn’t your first, or second, or third option. He sees this because he waits for you as the process unfolds. Now, rather than simply appreciating the fruits of your hard work, he experiences the costs. He must be patient, he must be calm, and too often he must push back your dinner reservations because you’re still getting ready. Sometimes your man even resorts to lying to you about your deadlines. (If the party’s at 9:30, he’ll tell you 9, hoping that it will get you going early enough to be on time).
There is nothing romantic about this process. And, if you fail to correct your ways, it will take its toll on your relationship. Suddenly your man can’t fully appreciate your style and beauty because he associates it with the waiting and, in his mind, unnecessary steps that go into achieving it. This disconnect leads to breakdowns in communication and physical connection, and can send your relationship spiraling downward.
THE SOLUTION:
Learn to get ready in 10 minutes and you will never be hotter.
Your man thinks you are beautiful. To him you look perfect when you wake up. That’s not just some sappy tag line from a Channing Tatum movie, its true. So, stop abusing his patience, stop being so predictable with your patterns, and stop being so dependent on your routine.
Learn a new routine, or learn how to streamline your current one. Be able to get ready in 10-15 minutes for almost all casual occasions, or spur of the moment, spontaneous plans. Pick out some outfits that you are confident in, that can be assembled in minutes. Plan out a makeup routine (if you must) that can be applied quickly. Learn a few ways to do your hair without irons and curlers and spritzers. And then, mix in this new simpler more organized approach. He’s going to notice, and you’ll be surprised by how effective your new easy/streamlined routine can be.
You’ll then be free to save the heavy production for special occasions, (birthdays, parties, anniversaries, special sexy date nights!) and guaranteed to get the response you want when you do break it out.
Saving it for something special, helps to make it special.
You’re on the clock…
Dating, Lifestyle, Relationships
I’m showing this to my girlfriend immediately
I really like this article. It makes me think about how long I really take to get ready and that “natural” beauty is something women should not only preach, but also practice.
Getting ready in 10 minutes is just NOT HAPPENING!!!
My boyfriend just told me that this is a lost art…
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I tend to do this anyways.. I’m just glad more people are realizing it shouldn’t take hours upon hours to get ready to just go sit on a couch to hang out..
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