Stop and Listen

November 14, 2011 No Comments

Think about it. What are the two main things men want.

1. Sex
2. To feel like they are being listened to.

Seriously. That’s the top 2. #3 is probably Sex also, followed by #4, food, and rounded out by #5, Sex.

If you’re looking for serious male attention, you might want to consider this list. Now I’m not telling you to bang every dude you see. Quite the opposite. Sex is not only physical, but mental, visual, auditory, aromatic, etc. All the senses are involved. There are plenty of ways to be sexy beyond the act of sex. More on that here and here and here. And food, well we covered that already.


Anyway, my point is, on the list above. “Listening” is the item that often gets overlooked.

Prostitution is the oldest industry in the world. It exists solely to take care of the top two items on that list, because so many times real relationships fail at doing just that. Yes, it’s about sex (so I’ve heard), but also, prostitutes/escorts/Tiger Wood’s former girlfriends, are trained to listen.

A man just wants to be heard. He wants to feel like his thoughts and actions, and the reasoning behind those thoughts and actions are important. You can relate to that right? You want you emotions understood. It works both ways.

Too many relationships fizzle out because the participants stop listening to each other. As a result, they become caricatures of themselves. Rational and emotional inspiration are assumed or ignored. When two people in a relationship stop listening to each other, everything else is affected. Communication is the foundation of every relationship. I didn’t make that up. That’s been said a million times before. That is real.

So, today, I remind you of this. Make an effort to really communicate with your man. Get to the bottom of his thoughts and rational. If he’s worth a sh*t he’ll reciprocate by listening to you. If he doesn’t, communicate to him that that is what you need. Communication takes effort and upkeep. You need to work it out to keep it in shape. And, the best exercise for developing communication… is listening.

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