Learn to say ‘NO!’
July 20, 2011 25 Comments
So you’re at a bar. Just a night out with your friends. You’re single, its time to have fun!
A few drinks, a few flirty looks, and bamm, you hooked one (whether you wanted it or not). He scoops up next to you. You both stumble through a conversation, timing your exchanges in between the pulses of the extremely too loud music. He’s not your type, or is he…hmm. You’re not sure. But… how could you be? Its fucking dark and your can’t hear a thing…oh, and he’s lying to you because he wants to bang ASAP, and he also thinks the $7 club and vodka he bought you has earned him the right to take you to bed.
As the night wraps up, he goes for the take home, the kiss, or the digits.
“Hey you should come back to my place”
“Hey I really like you, I want to kiss you right now”
“Hey can I get your number?”
What do you do?
You don’t really like this guy. Honestly, you were just going for that “free” drink (the one that really came at the price of entertaining his come-ons). You were just being nice. You didn’t want to be rude.
So… What do you do?
Well a lot of girls in this situation will actually give out the digits to avoid confrontation, lying, or seeming mean. Those girls end up with an address book full of bums, and a handful of unwelcome suitors to play off later. Those girls may even get guilt’d into spending more time with guys they really aren’t feeling, just because he has the balls to ask. This is a shame. Don’t be that girl.
Other girls, give out fake numbers, take his number instead, or just plain lie. This is not much better. It saves you the trouble of dealing with unwelcome come-ons the next day, but it also makes you a tease.
The proper response in this situation is so simple, that I can’t believe it’s taken me 266 words to get to it. The proper response, is the word you’re supposed to say whenever someone offers/proposes something you don’t want. The proper response is NO.
That’s right, No…
Just No.
You can be polite with it, you can be cordial… as long as you’re clear.
Its amazing how hard it is for girls to just say “no thanks” when they are caught up in this situation.
As awkward as you think it might be, the moment will end and you will feel better about being direct. He won’t be led on, and will soon recover from the rejection. Actually, he probably figured his odds weren’t that great when he first approached you anyway. There will be no annoying follow-up calls or texts to ignore tomorrow. Just peace, just closure.
So go out, have fun. Don’t lead dudes on and don’t settle. That goes for everything you do from the moment you step out. When they ask for more of your time, and they don’t deserve it, tell them…
The answer is NO.
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my friends have no problem with this, b*tches!
Women are taught to “be nice” they are afraid to offend, so they try to be polite but guys don’t take the word “No” very well because when their mother said “NO” she didn’t mean it either……sooner or later they will learn No means NO, “What don’t you understand about the word No” is the question she can ask after he continues to harass you. Be polite but be direct…it’s ok to be nice when making a decision that affects YOU too. Good luck!
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